If you suspect physical violence is forthcoming, leave or call the police.
While not as highly reported as it is with female victims, verbal and physical abuse by women against men is ever present. Never feel like you have to stay in an abusive relationship. Sometimes you must walk away from verbal abuse. Keep your temper, and never resort to physical violence against your mate.
Instructions
1. Ignore her. While you may be tempted to fire back in the heat of the moment, try to be the bigger person and ignore the urge to be a party to her shouting and mocking. Abusers want your attention, and they want to push your buttons. One way you can both fire back at her and still come away as the bigger person is to deny her what she wants; a fight. This will put you back in control of the situation.
2. Talk it out. When she is calm, tell her that what she says hurts you and that you want her to stop. Ask her if there is anything you can do to calm her aggression, and mean it. Explain to her that the things she says hurt your feelings and that her behavior affects you and anyone else who witnesses it, such as your children or family members. Tell her that it is a serious problem that you don't intend to suffer through if she isn't willing to work on her issues.
3. Be dismissive. If she begins verbally abusing you, be dismissive about the issue. acting as though it is not a big deal. You are not trying to disrespect her with this behavior; you are simply taking back your power by showing her through tone that she is being unreasonable.
4. Get out if she does not stop her abusive behavior. There is no reason to stay with someone who is constantly tearing you down. If you have children, recognize that they will get hurt in the long run. Take your life back.
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